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MistressAria

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Lesbian Dominatrix, LondonYes, I see women

You may have noticed that most websites advertising Mistresses and Dominatrices (maybe even mine included) are written as though the person reading is a man. That is mostly the market talking: the large majority of clients in this work are men, so that is who the copy ends up pointed at. What it does mean is that a woman who wants to kneel in front of another woman is left guessing whether she would even be welcome, so I would rather say it at the top of the page than bury it at the bottom.

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I'm a cis woman who identifies as bisexual/pansexual, and I grew up very much identifying as a gay woman. I think that makes it fairly self-explanatory why I so enjoy having women fans and women (trans women too, obv) and FEMMES on their knees, looking up adoringly.

I would love more women, femmes and trans women to apply to serve me. These are the applications and sessions I do not get nearly enough of, which is why I'm going to manifest it and actively seek them out by offering a standing discount for those of you who are femme/female identifying, who want to deepen your submission, experience it for the first time, or maybe you're simply curious about some part of this world and would like to explore it in a safe space with a professional.

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You do not have to be submissive to want this

Plenty of people who come to see me (men included) often wouldn't describe themselves as "a submissive" or even "submissive" at all.

And in case you haven't read this anywhere else yet, you don't have to identify as a submissive in order to explore submission (yes, deep submission!). And it's not at all a prerequisite, it doesn't even have to be a part of serving a Dominatrix or indulging your curiosities in BDSM/fetish as a whole, and it's definitely not a prerequisite of exploring submission! Subservience & exploring submission can be a separate and standalone exploration/adventure as opposed to identifying as a submissive. Sure, it can also lead you down the rabbit hole of discovering a part or a submissive side of you, but let's not kid ourselves, the curiosity of the proverbial rabbit hole is definitely at least 50% of the fun...

  • You might just be curious to find out what it's like to be tied up in Shibari.
  • Or you've fantasised about giving up control, crawling on your knees and being told what to do without any idea of what is about to be asked of you (yet still desperate for it to end in whatever form that leaves you quivering, shaking and begging for permission again...).
  • Perhaps you've seen images or videos of people restricted in varying levels of bondage, some or all of their body restricted, tied down, bound, pressed together in different positions, writhing around as if they want to get free, but the teasing and pleasure being administered (not to mention the sounds coming from them) give them away.
  • Or maybe you've always had a fantasy or know a little bit about protocol (The Secretary, anyone? 🥵) and how hot and warm you get between your thighs when you've been given an instruction, told what to do, while not knowing what will come next?
  • Have you ever thought about what it would feel like to receive discipline, to be bent over and spanked with the soft yet firm, feminine hand of a Disciplinarian, or to enter the trance-like state of rhythmic thuds of soft leather floggers and feel the somatic release wash over you?
  • Maybe you want to push your limits or try something that's been burning inside you secretly for a while, and decide to explore/experience it with a woman, a professional, and in a space safe enough for you to do just that.
  • Or maybe you just wanna feel my teeth pressed up against your neck, with the wand pressed between my body and yours, whispering about what a slut you're being for me and about how happy that makes me...?

Also, I would be remiss not to mention that if you ARE a female that identifies heavily with being a submissive/toy, a bona fide pain slut, filming submissive or any kind of slutty little girl with lots of experience, I hope it goes without saying you are obviously just as welcome with me (and everything on this page also applies to you).

Either way, you don't have to be a submissive, you could just be exactly as you are and want to experience the kinds of things that you googled to lead you to this page.

You are not unusual for wanting this

Fantasies of submission are extremely common in women as well as men. The research supports that this is statistically not only common but very normal, and it doesn't necessarily mean, or have to mean, that you have to be a submissive in all of your sexual relationships or experiences, or that you're a submissive person.

Being dominated by a woman, as a woman, separates the power dynamic from the usual gender script. This alone is a uniquely safe and familiar place to explore submission, but not only that, its separation from the heteronormative power dynamics that are innate in gender roles fosters a sense of wonder and possibilities that may not have arisen in traditional male/female sexual role-play and domination and submission exploration.

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What I am like in a session

I'm well known for my sensual style of play, unfathomable teasing, and commitment to my pleasure being a sense of torment as well as reward for you.

If you have never done this before

You do not need experience, a vocabulary, or a worked-out list of what you want. All I need is roughly what has piqued your interest: the kind of kinky porn you have been watching, or what drew you to whatever you typed into Google to find the page you are reading now.

Once your deposit is paid you get my personal WhatsApp number, and we can text and send voice notes and get to know each other before the day. If it is your first time I will take you through all of it: how we make certain of consent, the safeguards, safe words, and how you would like those to work for you. You dictate a great deal of this. I impose very little beyond my own safety precautions and my style of working. I am not there to tell you how to submit, or to make you use a safe word that feels ridiculous to say out loud. This is a conversation, a collaboration and, when necessary, a little bit of me holding and guiding your hands (not the platonic kind of hand-holding 😈).

Trans women / non-binary

You are welcome on exactly the same terms as everybody else here. Tell me your pronouns when you write, and I will use them.

Still deciding?

There is a fuller answer to whether a woman can see a Dominatrix, for anyone who wants it spelled out properly first.

Booking

If you are coming with a partner, the couples session is the page you want.

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